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As of the Summer,2018, the Dakini Kathryn has relocated to London, United Kingdom.

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Relaxation Is As Easy As 1-2-3-4…

We all know what it’s like to be so tired we can’t sleep. Life seems to be getting faster and faster, and it’s as if we have to keep running and running just to stay in the same place. Nowadays relaxing is reserved for holidays or a twice-weekly class, but what if we could slip into relaxation as easily as breathing?

“Total relaxation is the ultimate. That’s the moment when one becomes a buddha. That is the moment of realisation, enlightenment, Christ-consciousness. You cannot be totally relaxed right now. At the innermost core a tension will persist.

Tension means hurry, fear, doubt. Tension means a constant effort to protect, to be secure, to be safe. Tension means preparing for tomorrow now, or for the afterlife—afraid tomorrow you will not be able to face the reality, so be prepared. Tension means the past that you have not lived really but only somehow bypassed; it hangs, it is a hangover, it surrounds you.

If you become capable of relaxing the body voluntarily, then you will be able to help your mind relax voluntarily.

Remember one very fundamental thing about life: Any experience that has not been lived will hang around you, will persist: “Finish me! Live me! Complete me!” There is an intrinsic quality in every experience that it tends and wants to be finished, completed. Once completed, it evaporates; incomplete, it persists, it tortures you, it haunts you, it attracts your attention. It says, “What are you going to do about me? I am still incomplete—fulfill me!”

Your whole past hangs around you with nothing completed—because nothing has been lived really, everything somehow bypassed, partially lived, only so-so, in a lukewarm way. There has been no intensity, no passion. You have been moving like a somnambulist, a sleepwalker. So that past hangs, and the future creates fear. And between the past and the future is crushed your present, the only reality.

You will have to relax from the circumference. The first step in relaxing is the body. Remember as many times as possible to look in the body, whether you are carrying some tension in the body somewhere—at the neck, in the head, in the legs. Relax it consciously. Just go to that part of the body, and persuade that part, say to it lovingly “Relax!”

And you will be surprised that if you approach any part of your body, it listens, it follows you—it is your body! With closed eyes, go inside the body from the toe to the head searching for any place where there is a tension. And then talk to that part as you talk to a friend; let there be a dialogue between you and your body. Tell it to relax, and tell it, “There is nothing to fear. Don’t be afraid. I am here to take care—you can relax.” Slowly slowly, you will learn the knack of it. Then the body becomes relaxed.

Then take another step, a little deeper; tell the mind to relax. And if the body listens, the mind also listens, but you cannot start with the mind—you have to start from the beginning. You cannot start from the middle. Many people start with the mind and they fail; they fail because they start from a wrong place. Everything should be done in the right order.

When the mind is relaxed, then start relaxing your heart, the world of your feelings, emotions—which is even more complex, more subtle.

If you become capable of relaxing the body voluntarily, then you will be able to help your mind relax voluntarily. The mind is a more complex phenomenon. Once you have become confident that the body listens to you, you will have a new trust in yourself. Now even the mind can listen to you. It will take a little longer with the mind, but it happens.

When the mind is relaxed, then start relaxing your heart, the world of your feelings, emotions—which is even more complex, more subtle. But now you will be moving with trust, with great trust in yourself. Now you will know it is possible. If it is possible with the body and possible with the mind, it is possible with the heart too. And then only, when you have gone through these three steps, can you take the fourth. Now you can go to the innermost core of your being, which is beyond body, mind, heart: the very centre of your existence. And you will be able to relax it too.

And that relaxation certainly brings the greatest joy possible, the ultimate in ecstasy, acceptance. You will be full of bliss and rejoicing. Your life will have the quality of dance to it.”

Osho,The Dhammapada: The Way of the Buddha.

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Tantra: Where Modern Love Meets Ancient Love

Tantra: Where Modern Love Meets Ancient Love

The marriage of sex and spirituality is a natural union that has its roots in ancient cultures all over the world. From the 5000 year-old study of sensual Tantra in India and the sexual practices of Taoist China, sex has had mystical significance for millennia. Both cultures studied techniques to enhance sexual pleasure and used sex as a means to enter higher states of awareness.

When beginning a discussion of Tantra with someone, I like to ask what that person’s perception of Tantra is. The answers are varied of course:
“Spiritual aspects of sexuality?”
“Using the breath and channeling sexual energy.”
 “It’s about prolonging and building stamina.”
 “Going deeper.”
All correct. Well, except for Sting. While his comments about having all-night sex sessions with his wife have done much to bring Tantra into mainstream awareness, he has since admitted he was exaggerating.
Which isn’t to say it can’t be done.
The word Tantra comes from Sanskrit, meaning “to weave and expand.” All of the the varied parts of ourselves are allowed to come together: madonna, whore; child, adult; dominant, submissive; masculine, feminine and form an integrated whole. As we unfold into the deepest expression of who we are, we stretch out, become larger and fill more space. At its core, this is the Tantric path. I use the word Tantra loosely to cover the study of elevated sex and most of the principles I reference come from the Taoist sexual philosophy.
Tantric and Taoist study consider sexual energy to be extremely potent—the most powerful energy on the planet—and that consciously channeled, it can be used for amazing things. I’ve studied martial arts and yoga for years. The awareness and manipulation of energy has always fascinated me. Tantra is an extension of these studies: it’s sexual kung fu. In the conscious direction of sexual energy, one can revitalize physical, emotional, mental and spiritual health. Ancient Taoist physicians prescribed certain sexual positions to cure different ailments. It’s the best acupressure treatment going. Instead of declining sex when feeling tired, try having sex instead. It will energize you.
Moving and channeling sexual energy enables you to clear blockages where your energy has been stagnant, possibly causing dysfunction and disease. Once you’ve cleared those, you have that energy available to revitalize organs, meridians and your brain.
One of the most commonly understood facets of Tantra is the focus on the journey. Most people have a very goal-oriented view of sex: orgasm is the be-all and end-all and the gauge of how good the encounter was. In Tantra, the pleasure is in the prolonging. Orgasm is amplified tenfold: you feel it in your entire body, not just your genitals; and the sensations of ecstasy can last for hours. Take this even further with the idea that your sexual simmer ought to extend out of the bedroom and into your everyday life. Your bodies and feelings can always be humming at a slight throb of desire, of wanting each other, of being sensually open and ready.
Plus, I love marathon sex. I love to have sex for hours. And hours. I love the connecting, I love the endurance and I love the high I get from it. I seek out activities that challenge my tenacity: I weight train, I run, I climb mountains. I love the feeling of being about to collapse and then somehow reaching inside of myself to find more strength. My sexual practice helps build that in me.
Elaborating on the idea of “weaving,” is the perpetual “yes.” Loving, accepting and revealing the deepest parts of yourself and offering that same gift to your partner is powerful medicine. I know for myself, that a pre-condition to any sensual exploration is sexual permissiveness. For me to feel safe and open up, I need for my lovers to be sexually fearless. When we both come from a place without judgment, the most profound healing, connecting and growth happens. The bedroom becomes a microcosm. In that arena, where I’m free to explore and occupy all the different and wild parts of myself, I take that outside of our intimate space with me: I act without thinking (a good thing) and I live from a place of non-censoring.
There are many dimensions to Tantra—from the conscious channeling of sexual energy, to a focus on authenticity, depth and the celebration of no-judgment. Integrating elements from ancient sexual traditions can only improve the quality of your sex and connection.
You’ll experience orgasm infinitum.
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A Tantra Meditation to Enhance Your Love Life !

If you’re at all into spirituality, meditation or yoga, chances are you’ve heard of Tantra.

Many people are now turning to Tantra as a lifestyle practice. But beyond Tantra being a codeword for some kind of sexual marathon that Sting jokingly claimed to enjoy, what exactly is it?

More importantly, is it something that’s within reach for you to enjoy, and can it help you grow in some way?

At its essence, Tantra is a practice that combines movement, breath, meditation and sound, to assist the Chakra energy system within the body to open. This opening allows dormant energy, known as Kundalini, to move up from the pelvis, along the spine. The movement of this life-force energy can help you to heal by loosening constrictions within the body that have developed over a lifetime. The expansion of the energy body also increases sensation, clairvoyance and one’s ability to connect with others.

For many people, it’s this expanded ability to connect with a partner that draws them to Tantra. But aside from the obvious benefits of improving your sex life, Tantra practices can also expand the energy body toward its true purpose — your true purpose. All in all, it feels good to practice Tantra and the side benefit of ecstatic orgasms (by yourself or with a partner) keep people coming back for more.

But you don’t really jump straight to the ecstatic orgasms when you begin a Tantra practice, and that’s OK. Every new skill starts small, with the basics! The gentle movement and breathing techniques of Qigong (which I teach my Tantra students to balance their energy), and Tantra yoga (which raises energy) are enjoyable in their own right, as you journey down the Tantric path.

Even more basic (and far easier to learn from reading an article) are meditations that guide you to move energy up and down the spine and expand the energy centers of your body. With a regular practice of only five minutes each day, gradually adding time as you progress, Tantra becomes available to all physical abilities. Most people who want to, can find time to fit this into their daily routine.

Below is a Tantric meditation that raises energy and invites the energy centers along the spine to open. Even if you’re not currently in an intimate relationship with anyone other than yourself, these meditations offer tangible benefits.

Third Eye Meditation

Known as a Spinal Meditation in Ipsalu Kriya Yoga, this meditation technique opens the Crown Chakra (top of the head) and the Third Eye Chakra (middle of the forehead) to receive divine energy. It also activates a circuit of energy up and down the spine, opening awareness to the heavens, while maintaining a connection to the Earth.

Come into a comfortable seated position. Feel your sit bones at the base of your pelvis and your legs touching the cushion and floor below you. If sitting in a chair, feel your feet on the floor.

Inhale and lengthen your spine. Imagine a string is pulling the top of your head toward the sky. Exhale and reach your tailbone toward the Earth, while maintaining that length in your spine. You can imagine your tailbone is a taproot connecting with the heart of the Earth. Keep your chin parallel to the floor. Continue to breathe easily and naturally.

Place your tongue on the roof of your mouth and imagine a golden ball in front of just above your eyebrows, in the center of your forehead (your third eye). Inhale through your nose, roll the ball over the top of your head (crown), down the spine to your tailbone, chanting the word “hung” in your mind.

Exhale through your nose, rolling the ball back up the spine, over your head to your forehead (third eye), and chant “sau” (sounds like “saw”) on inhalation.

This chant means, “I am that” or “I am.”

By chanting this mantra you are affirming your True Self as one with the Earth and the Divine.

Start by doing this practice for five minutes daily and add more time each time you sit, building up to 20 minutes each day.

Note that it is important to balance a Kundalini activating practice with a grounded practice. An imbalance of Kundalini may make you lightheaded or dizzy, too energized, talkative or prone to insomnia. Simple activities such as restorative yoga, receiving massage, walks in nature, weight training, or eating foods such as root vegetables and oily foods like avocados and olives can help.

While it may be tempting to stay in a raised Kundalini state, it can be very difficult to function while living in the ethers. If you notice you feel energetically out of balance, return to activities and practices that ground you, and seek assistance if necessary. Consulting an experienced Tantra educator for support is important if you have difficulty grounding yourself.

Should you wish to use meditation as a way into sacred sexuality practices with a partner, I highly recommend working with a trained and experienced Tantra teacher — and always remain deeply connected to yourself.

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How my Yoni Massage brought Unexpected Healing!

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This is a story of Melissa’s Transformation & Integration through touch-therapy that connects sex, heart and head. Please read and if you like it,  comment & share  so those in need of sexual healing and integration can receive ideas and support.

“As a nearly-45-year-old woman, I used to be frustrated and unable to orgasm.”

” I had been on a quest to find a professional to perform such a massage and give me the healing I yearned for.

Living in Des Moines, Iowa (a not-exactly-progressive town in the heart of the Midwest) I didn’t have many options. When I did an internet search, I only found “seedy” links that looked more like porn sites and massage parlors that were more about a “happy ending” than healing. I talked to friends who had “friends” who were very “talented,” but not exactly trained—if you know what I mean.

Last fall, I traveled to Los Angeles, California. While I was there, I decided it would be a great place to search out the elusive yoni massage.

I expected LA to be the mecca of yoni services, and to a certain extent, it was. That is, if you’re looking for vaginal steaming, reconstructive surgery or other “plastic” services related to the appearance of one’s yoni. But a true, healing, tantric yoni massage was difficult to find.

I searched the internet, Yelp, Facebook nearby places, Trip Advisor and other social media sites to find a reputable place. Finally, after a few hours searching, I connected with Mare….'”  Please read more and comment at Elephant Journal link below:

Published in The Elephant Journal: AUG 2016 – How my Yoni Massage brought Unexpected Healing & Orgasm {Adult}. 

Thank you for sharing and joining the conversation. I would love more people to chat and explore healing touch. If this post touches you; help it get seen by those that need it too.

It illuminates the healing journey from shame and “duty-sex” to the #OMZone = #OrgasmicMagicZone … from #numb-to-yum!

Love xoxox Mare

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“As above, so below, as within, so without, as the universe, so the soul…”

“As above, so below, as within, so without, as the universe, so the soul…”  Hermes Trismegistus

This principle, which pervades all things, is perfectly exemplified in the video above where world famous scientist Neil DeGrasse Tyson answers the question of “what is the most astounding fact about the universe?” It is a fascinating example of Hermetic law.

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The Seven Principles taught by Hermes Trismegistus

These are the seven principles taught by Hermes Trismegistus, also known as Hermes, the Greek God of travelers/thieves/commerce and the messenger of the Gods. He was also known as the great priest Thoth to the Egyptians.

“….it is understood that these ideas where passed from Master to Initiate for generations, for the purpose of personal growth and with the intention of achieving a greater and deeper understanding of the self, the world and beyond. For the student of religion, philosophy and science, the Hermetic teachings act as the key to tying all of the different schools of thought into one cohesive body of knowledge.”

The Seven Principles of the Universe:

1. Principle of Mentalism: “All is Mind”

2. Principle of Correspondence: “As is above, so is below.  As is below, so is above.”

3. Principle of Vibration: “Nothing rests; everything moves; everything vibrates.”

4. Principle of Polarity: “Everything is dual; everything has an opposite, and opposites are identical in nature but different in degree.”

5. Principle of Rhythm: “Everything flows, out and in; the pendulum-swing manifests in everything; the measure of the swing to the right is the measure of the swing to the left- rhythm compensates.”

6. Principle of Cause and Effect: “Every cause has its effect; every effect has its cause.”

7. Principle of Gender: “Everything has its masculine and feminine principles.”

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Tantra – Mantra and Yantra: a Scientific Study in Creation, Calculation and Consequence

By Dr. Bindu Purohit, M.B.B.S.
Physician and Surgeon
Remedial Astrologer

Eternity is the most coveted stage in the Indian scriptures. Through mystical practice, the process of amalgamation that takes place between an individual, an intermediary source such as Mantra and Yantra, and the Supreme Divine Power can turn that which is mortal into immortal substance and grant us deliverance from age, maladies and death. The ancient spiritual seers of India envisioned a divine Yantra, or divine mystical form, which turned into an elixir of immortality. Since very remote times people have applied the science of Yantra to solve their physical, mental and other material problems. By doing so, they create a level of health in mind and body that are no less precious than this immortal elixir.

Colour, smell, sound and forms have a direct bearing on our mental states. Each of them strikes the mind in its own way and creates a complicated network of wave patterns that are conducive to health and beneficial for the practitioner. Science has discovered infinite energy in the fission of atoms. Mystical strokes on the mental screen can generate energy in a similar way.

The ways of mysticism are strange. They are even stranger for the mystical truth they contain. Mantra is the most significant among the different approaches of mysticism in that it attempts not only to analyze the human mind but also to synthesize it. Mantra Shastra, or ancient Mantric scriptures, describe in every detail how the human mind can be distributed in different directions in order to reunite it into a single whole.

Shastras are called Shruti or “Something that has been passed on through generations as an oral tradition”. An implicit quality of Mantra is that it is a form of knowledge that has to be communicated in spoken words. It can not be written down. The ancients presumed that something gets lost between sound and its inscription. A written script can be analyzed, but the actual force of sound with its articulation, pitch and tone and the specific arrangements of multiple sounds are totally lost as soon as they are scripted.

The Vedas were preserved through oral tradition for thousands of years.  Their documentation was ignored on purpose because the sonic power of the Vedas would be dissociated and therefore lost. The whole calculation would alter with the written word. The ancients understood that if sounds came to be represented by written symbols or alphabets, their finer, subtle sensibilities would be marred. Documentation would render them lifeless. That’s why scripture has always been passed through the ages in the form of Shruti.

Mantra is a word or a phrase propelled with power. It is a methodical set of notes pronounced with a particular pitch, articulation and tone. Its rhythmic incantation sends specific, one-of-a-kind vibrations through the medium of the ether present in the atmosphere. These vibrations gradually affect the different cells of the body. Incantation merges the energy of sound and will power. It is only when the horizontal and the vertical sound waves of the words achieve the same wavelength as those of the juxtaposing energy waves of the body that the Mantra achieves perfection and galvanizes itself. This can be achieved by constant repetition of the Mantra in its characteristic rhythm and tone. If a sound or a word in a Mantra is dislocated or interchanged, the desired effect will not be produced and render the incantation futile. The precision of a Mantra is its only inherent steering force.

It was in order to reflect the wholesome effect of the constant incantation of Mantra on himself that man devised Yantras in the form of temples. The domes in the architecture of our temples are very significant. They are miniature replicas of the sky. The sound of OM is lost under the sky and doesn’t reflect back to the one who produces the sound. A dome, on the contrary, reflects the sound back to the source itself. Constant incantation creates a circle of sound: one emanating from the source and the other reflecting back to it. This encircling effect transports the devotee to an inexplicable spiritual elevation. If the incantation is practiced in solitude, this sonic circle should put a definite end to the thought current. In other words, the turmoil of thoughts subsists only in the absence of the circle of energy round the devotee. The moment the circle is complete, the energy pacifies and channels itself into spiritual power unto the desired goal of the devotee. The domes of the temples, therefore, symbolize a mystical process that has been lost over the years through disuse.

When the scholars of the west visited Indian temples for the first time they considered them unhygienic because of the congestion caused by lack of proper ventilation. Later they were amazed to discover that the devotees sitting in these ‘closed temples’ were among the healthiest people in all of India. This was when they realized that the incantation of a particular sound like OM purifies and purges the atmosphere by striking it regularly with vibrations.

Our seekers of Mantra have been meditating for centuries in closed caves that hardly admit any light or air and yet they have been healthy and content. This is because there are particular utterances that purify and others that defend against disease. For these reasons these sounds have been called Nad Brahma, the highest sublimation of sound.

The Pranav Mantra, or OM, symbolizes the whole universe. The Rigveda, which is the original treatise on Mantra, attached optimum significance to this Pranav Mantra. Maharshi Aurbindo has said, “‘OM’ is the signature of the Lord; with the help of ‘Om’ one can realize the Divine”. Patanjali’s Yoga sutras, in the same strain, proclaim – “Pranav is the spoken symbol of God and thus it has the realization of God and the Universe.”

Nad, or sound, is regarded as a form of Brahma. This signifies that sound is omnipotent and the ultimate energy. Mimansa philosophy established Mantra as a form of God. Each Mantra corresponds to a patron god or goddess. Each Mantra, sound and intonation has a particular articulation that can be revealed through systematic analysis. The ancient visionaries with full knowledge of the power of sounds devised words or phrases that exert tremendous effects. These words and phrases are the original seed Mantras. The scholars and seekers determined through their experience and experimentation the frequencies peculiar to each Mantra and have prescribed the exact number of times a Mantra has to be repeated to create the desired results.

Musical symphonies create soothing effects on the human mind as well as the body. Rhythmic chanting of Mantra vibrates through the medium of the ether in a similar way. Mantras create particular sonic patterns whose waves influence the cells of the body. This impact can reach far beyond local effects. It can even be directed to a person who is thousands of miles away. This phenomenon is similar to a radio that can receive electromagnetic waves from the atmosphere and reproduce sounds that originate thousands of miles away.

Several laboratories in the west have recently undertaken experiments with sound and its possible impact on living systems. Some of these experiments have come up with significant conclusions. For example, one of them demonstrated that plants that normally bear flowers in six months blossom and bloom in two months with the effect of particular sounds. In Russia, the milking of cows has been influenced with certain sounds. Humans may also therefore respond to the impact of sound.

The medical world already makes skillful use of many forms of ultrasound therapy for both diagnosis and treatment. Medical scientists have successfully carried out numerous therapeutic experiments with sounds and musical compositions.

Music has proved to be a miracle cure for many a hopeless medical cause. For example, a 10-year old English girl, Catherine Fisher, fell into a coma after a bicycle accident. In the 12th day of her coma her desperate parents decided to play their little daughter some of her favourite music. They took a. tape recording into her hospital room and played some of the tunes with which she used to dance at her ballet classes. Then, for the first time since her accident, Catherine opened her eyes and smiled.

Doctors explain that areas of the brain that become tired can be revived by the introduction of familiar sounds or voices. Perhaps this is one of the mechanisms that helped young Catherine.

Experiments have been carried out to show the effects of music on sleeping people. When cheerful music is played to the sleeping people, they get up in a cheerful mood. Contrarily, if a person wakes up in the midst of noise or harsh music, s/he will be irritated and indignant in her/his mood. Thirdly, if pathetic music is employed to wake someone up, the person will be found sad in disposition. These three responses from the experimental subject’s point of view have no rhyme or reason. Yet they sufficiently demonstrate the effect of sound on the human mind and thus uphold the concept that sound can affect the cords of the psyche.

Incantation can provide remedies to almost all maladies. In this therapy the body cannot be superior to the conscience or the spirit. If the conscience is pure there is no reason for the body to be diseased. There is no shelter for the maladies.

In a non-medical experiment, Miss Watts Huge of London created a device she called an audiophone that she wrote about in her popular book Voice Figure. The audiophone has a sensitive vibrating membrane that she scatters with particles of different colours. These particles get momentum from the vibrations of the membrane and form different pictures that sometimes look like rivers, serpents, mountains and trees.

Using the same instrument, a Bengali student from India intoned the Bhairavashtak metre for Madam Kinlang of Paris. While the young man was singing, the particles of the audiophone’s membrane galvanized and in a few minutes formed into the patron god of the metre, Kal Bhairav.

The preceding thoughts can help us to understand why Mantra is considered to be all-important in making a Yantra effective. Mantra and Yantra are the two divisions of an ancient sacred science. Mantra interconnects with Yantra, and vice versa. Yantra is a representation of a Mantra in a graphic or other substantial form like an icon. A Mantra’s energy can be preserved in a Yantra as if it is in a battery.

Yantras are usually metallic because metals are good conductors of energy. They are made of gold, silver or bronze sheets that are consecrated and mystified. Yantras are powerful in proportion to their consecration and the mystic powers at the command of their makers. The electromagnetic power created by the incantation of a Mantra is intentionally preserved and discharged through a Yantra. The electromagnetic waves of the Mantra charge the Yantra to produce the requisite energy for the purpose of the Mantra. These waves are directed towards definite directions in order to expand the area of their effects. There have been hundreds of different forms of Mantras that represent the farthest limits of imagination and the deepest human sentiments.

A Yantra is therefore an instrument or tool that directs the functional force of a particular Mantra. Yantras symbolize divine power at its first manifestation. The process of making a Yantra embodies a journey from the minutest form of expression of a Mantra to the definition, description and presentation of its material form.

One of the definitions of Yantra is “machine.” Although many modern machines are based on the philosophy of Yantras, the sacred scriptures of India clearly describe how ancient Yantras were hundreds of times more powerful than our machines of today. Yantras are not inanimate entities like modern machines. They are living sources of mystical energy. Their fabrication and function are different from machines. Yantras have been much more functional and significant than machines to our ancestors, who attached due respect and reverence for them by adopting Yantras as integral parts of their social behaviour.

The purpose of technical machines is physical. Their structure and use further the material gains of the user. Yantras, on the other hand, are infused with mystical powers to become independent entities. They are not considered to be merely material. Yantras are invented with definite purposes. A complicated mystical process goes into mystifying even the metallic materials from which they are made into very special elements. The practitioner attains this stage for these elements through ardent and tedious meditation.

Dr. Alaxander Pavlovich of the department of computer research in Moscow University has stated that he was fascinated by the geometrical charm and sound form of the Shree Yantra. The Shree Yantra is particularly charming if one gazes at it intently for a long time. One can experience an indescribable mesmerism by observing the Shree Yantra, whose sophisticated equations would take even the most modern computer a hundred million operations to calculate.

Yantras are diagrammatic representations of Mantras in the ethereal medium. The incantation of a Mantra produces various vibrations in the atmosphere. These particular sound waves create a source, which is a Yantra. Our ancient practitioners of Yantra perfected this process and employed it for human welfare.

In their operational stage, Yantras relate to the Subconscious mind. As carriers of spiritual power, Yantras affect the human body as well as the environment around it. Our body substance is composed of five natural elements. It is also imprinted with numerous energies from its surroundings. A Yantra is a sketch of the total impact of these energies and their lines of influence impregnated into form. The sound waves of a Mantra create mystical effects on the human mind. A Yantra with its linear sketches and letters also affects the human mind in its own way.

Mantra has formed an essential ingredient of all faiths in one form or another. The most noble purposes and divine attributes have always been ascribed to Mantra. Yet the mere mention of the word “Yantra” conjures up a kind of fear or dread in the society of India today. Our common belief holds that the mystical powers of Yantras are often exercised to destroy human life out of vengeance. Such baseless fears misrepresent the whole Yantric concept by incorrectly labeling it as a destructive art. Scholars and all those who hold this highly spiritual practice in great esteem must combat these misinterpretations and misgivings and campaign to popularize the real significance of Yantras at the same time.

Spiritual Yantras are created with great thought and reasoning. They are undeniably impressive, made expressly to stimulate a special kind of mental activity and evoke psychosomatic force. Highly trained experts can utilize Yantras in ritual as offerings, meditations and rites that can change a person completely and give him or her a new direction in life.

Almost all Yantras available in standard forms have specific purposes assigned to them. Their operations strike corresponding fibres of the human form to activate the desired elements. Incantation and consecrated geometric representation are the central science of the mystical process of Yantra. A Yantra contains the potential to acquire total control over one’s body and can be functional in producing its desired effects through these very specific operations. It is amazing that the processes that were visualized and embodied by our noble ancestors thousand of years ago are still operational and effective with great precision today.

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Orlando, Florida – Tantra with Tantrika D – Dakini Kathryn Highly Recommends . . .

Seeing that Dakini Kathryn is rarely traveling back to her old home in Orlando, she would like to present an opportunity to work with another Goddess in the Orlando area. Kathryn and her have been friends and colleagues for many years after meeting in Florida.

You may remember seeing double massage sessions being offered with her in the past. You may have even been lucky enough to try one of these sessions…perhaps we can offer these again sometime this year.

Tantrika D lives year-round in Orlando. She is located in the downtown Orlando area in a lovely cottage. She trained in Tantra and yoga in India, California, and Asheville. You may find out more about her sessions through her website. Please let her know that Dakini Kathryn referred you.

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The Question of Loneliness

What does tantra have to say about loneliness?

A participant in a recent workshop asked this question. We were talking about what needed healing in the world and how could tantra help.

Hmm.. tough question.

Rumi describes the official tantric philosophy in his quote:

“Do not feel lonely… The entire universe is within you.”

Sigh… Yes, we understand that. But when we are sitting alone, experiencing the pain of loneliness, this idea/saying/teaching is of little comfort.

So how do we get there? How do we go from where we are now to that wonderful experience that Rumi speaks of?

1) Feeling Connected in the Crowd:

Fusion Tantra: Cafe SceneTantra says that what brings us the most sadness is the illusion of separation.

I am writing this article in a café in downtown Toronto. I am surrounded by strangers – in the café, on the street, in cars, in surrounding buildings. How I experience this is up to me. I can notice how different and separate everyone is from me. I can realize that no one here knows me or cares about me. And I can feel lonely.

Or, I can take a deep breath and truly FEEL all of these people around me. I can sense their humanity. I can notice what we all have in common. I can feel our common connection.

Tantra is about experiencing the divine in this physical world. The same divine energy flows through all of these people. We are the same. And when I slow down and breath deeply, I can feel that.. And suddenly I’m not alone at all.

 2) Find Your TRUE Community:

Fusion Tantra: Camping FunWhen we feel alone, it often coincides with not following (or knowing) our passions. Let’s say that deep down, you love sports, but you are surrounded by bankers. Or that you love theatre, but are surrounded by political activists. You always tend to feel like you’re on the outside looking in.. Unengaged, disconnected.

Tantra is about living life completely. Why would we live any other way? And yet, making a living, raising a family, and a hundred other things can often leave our lives empty of joyful, fun things that we are truly passionate about.

Even finding ONE passion can change everything. First, it makes you happy and excited about living. And second, you will meet others who share this passion. They will feel like kindred spirits.

I love to dance. And when I meet someone who also loves to dance, some part of me deep inside relaxes and smiles and thinks.. “Awesome… you’re like me.. we are part of the same tribe.”

This feeling of connection is part of our design.

3) Consider Living with Others:

Part of the loneliness problem is social, not spiritual. We are naturally social creatures. Yet in our modern society, we tend to isolate ourselves into nuclear families and if we aren’t in a family, we live alone.

For many, the idea of sharing space with others is the last thing that they want – mostly based on bad experiences in the past.

But what if your housemates were kindred spirits? What if you all had the same desire for a balance of privacy and passive community? What if this was possible? The simply proximity to others who care can make all the difference.


Yes. It is completely natural to desire an intimate partner. Intimacy is so beautiful. But of course loneliness with respect to a partner comes in two ways: Either you are alone and wish you had a partner OR you have a partner and you feel even more alone.

Loneliness Within a Relationship: Sometimes you can feel much more loneliness within a relationship than when you are actually single. There are lots of great relationships out there. But many relationships come out of an old paradigm where companionship, sharing a home, and caring for the children are all that matters. True intimacy, deep connection and open communication are not important at all. In these instances, we can feel incredibly lonely since we don’t feel deeply connected to the one person that we are supposed to and we are isolated from experiencing it with anyone else.. And after decades of this, the loneliness can be overwhelming.

If you find yourself in this place, then serious soul-searching is required. To ask yourself “What you truly desire in this life?”… Are you seeking expansiveness? Do you need to speak your truth? Does your relationship need to change? Or has the relationship run its course? These are hard questions that require listening inside to your inner truth as to what the path is so that you can find that connection and fulfillment either within your current relationship or in the next chapter.

Fusion Tantra - Solitary JourneyLoneliness as a Single:  But it is different if you find yourself in the other boat – single and feeling alone. In this case, the question is,“Do you feel complete and happy with or without a partner?” OR“Do you feel that you cannot be happy and content until you find a partner?”

Tantra is fundamentally a solitary journey. Many come to tantra because we desire incredible intimacy and the magical sexual experiences that it promises… But the truth is, if we are not whole ourselves, all the magic will elude us. We must become complete, balanced and happy within ourselves. Tantra is about experiencing the divine within us – WITHIN US!! If we cannot find happiness until we find another, then it isn’t happiness that we are seeking.. We are looking for another to fill a void or a role or a part of us that we don’t want to fill ourselves. But it won’t work. Even if we find someone, eventually we will feel discontent again.. Because the discontent is within us. We must fix this first.

And so, this brings us back to the first 3 points of this article… Feel connected with everyone around you and consider living with others to relieve the angst of feeling alone. Search within yourself to find the passions in your life that truly make you feel alive and that your life is exciting.. This will lead to finding kindred spirits.

These things alone will start to fill in the voids within us. Loneliness is a very contracted state. Tantra is about being expansive.

And as we expand into who we are, we will feel happier, we will gather kindred spirits, we will start to truly love our lives..

And who knows, we might even find love along the way.













Fusion Tantra: Dandelion Sun

IMG_6486About the Author: Katrina Bos has been studying and practicing Tantra for over 10 years… Her greatest AHA moment came when she realized that this was actually our natural ability… That we are designed to be THIS intimate and experience such incredible pleasure!! Her goal is to de-mystify this ancient teaching and share it with everyone!! It is truly how we are made… And we all deserve to feel that kind of pleasure, happiness and connection!! She teaches online courses and workshops around the world in tantra, meditation and spirituality.  Click HERE to read more about Katrina.

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The Lingam (Penis) Massage: Awakening a Man’s Sexual Energy for Healing and Personal Transformation.

The Lingam (Penis) Massage: Awakening a Man’s Sexual Energy. 


Lingam is the Sanskrit word for the male sexual organ and the translation of the word refers to a pillar of light. In Tantra the Lingam is honoured and respected as it is a channel for sexual energy and pleasure.

The lingam massage focuses on clearing energy, blockages and promoting healing, and the pleasure that is gained from it is purely a side effect of the massage.

Although the aim of the massage is not to achieve an orgasm, it is very common for a man to become highly aroused resulting in an orgasmic climax. The intense sexual pleasure will be felt throughout the whole body, not just around the genitals.

The massage should be relaxing, stimulating, erotic, healing, exhilarating, liberating and leave the receiver with a great sense of emotional, mental, spiritual and physical well-being whilst experiencing a sensual arousal and high levels of sexual pleasure.

It is essential that the giver and receiver are both fully relaxed and that their intentions are set for the same purpose, so that the massage is not confused with being to purely receive sexual gratification. The energy between both people should be flowing freely so that the energies can intertwine, synchronise and harmonise rhythmically.

The massage focuses on removing blockages that are caused by a build up of toxins and when these are removed sexual, physical, emotional and spiritual health is vastly improved, as the energy (prana/life-force) is able to flow around and through the body.

The massage should be carried out in a calm and peacefully setting, with a comfortably warm temperature, a subdued lighting with candles and gentle tunes playing in the background so that the right ambiance is created.

To start the massage both partners should be sitting or standing face-to-face touching hands or looking into each other’s eyes. The breathing should be synchronised beginning with deep breaths that fill the lungs.

When the breathing techniques have energised the giver and receiver, the person receiving the massage should lie face down on the bed and when comfortable, a full body massage can begin. The massage should consist of small strokes along with firmer kneading pressure to disperse the energy and release any tension that is being held.

Working from the feet upwards, using both hands the giver should massage the whole of the legs, the inner thighs, pelvis and then move up to the buttocks, lower back and then onto the shoulders. A head and face massage can also take place, however, this depends on the receivers preferences.

Then, the person receiving the massage should turn to lie on his back with plenty of pillows propped under his head so that he is in a comfortable position and able to watch the front of his body being massaged along with his lingam. A cushion should be placed just under his hips to elevate the pelvis slightly.

It is important to make sure the breathing remains deep for both the giver and the receiver so that the connection remains and the energy continues to flow between the two.

Sexual energy is a powerful force and when it is harnessed it can induce high levels of emotional, physical, sensual and sexual pleasure.

The receiver should have his legs slightly apart with the knees bent, and again the massage should work its way up the body, starting with the feet, then the calf muscles, thighs, abdomen, chest and shoulders.

The lingam massage is a series of more than 25 different holds that build and release pressure that will feel similar to waves rising up and then crashing down (some powerfully, while others will be gentler and with less force). The energy will be building, dispersing and spreading over and throughout the whole of the body.

Once the receiver is fully relaxed the lingam massage can begin.

Prior to massaging the lingam it is essential to ask permission before touching it to pay respect and honour it as a sacred organ.

The giver should place a few drops of massage oil or lubricant onto the hands, warming it slightly between the fingers. Beginning at the very top of the thighs massage the lubricant into the skin moving upwards to where the top of the legs meet the crease of the pelvis.

Working on the muscles alternating between stroking and kneading. Apply a little pressure to loosen any tension by pressing in and then releasing slightly at the end of each movement.

With slow and slightly firm pressure begin to massage the lower part of the pelvic bone with the fingertips using small circular motions.

To further stimulate the blood flow to the lingam area, while still using the fingertips in small circular motions gently massage the area just slightly above the pelvic bone. It is at this stage that many men may feel a natural instinct to participate actively as the body will begin to feel aroused.

The profound feeling felt within the lingam massage is the process of allowing the body to accept the pleasure whilst remaining in total surrender, so the receiver will feel the sensations that occur when fighting the urge to respond.

Before the massage takes place ask the receiver whether they prefer the testicles to be stroked very gently or for a soft, but firmer, knead and pull to take place. Each person will have their own preferences, so it is always better to check to ensure maximum comfort.

Slowly begin to massage the perineum paying special attention to the “sacred spot” which is a small indentation halfway between the anus and testicles. In slow circular motions press gently and massage to fully relax this very sensitive area. This circular spot may feel tender and hold pain and tension so massage very carefully at first.

Massage downward from the base of the lingam to the anus, alternating between strokes, circular motions and a very soft and gentle pulling or tugging on the delicate skin.

Pay attention to the receiver to ensure they are fully comfortable, not in any pain and relaxed at all times.

Moving towards the testicles, very gently and slowly, use one hand to stroke and massage this area to loosen the scrotum sack, while using the other hand to firmly massage the pubic bone.

While massaging the oil into the skin pay close attention to the receiver to ensure they are fully comfortable, in no pain and also to ensure they are still breathing deeply—if necessary gently remind them to remain focusing on the breath throughout.

Rub a few more drops of oil into the hands then place one hand at the base of the lingam with a gentle but slightly firm pressure. Very slowly pull the hand up from the base to the head of the lingam with a very soft squeezing motion pulling slowly up and then releasing. Then using the other hand start at the base of the lingam and very slowly and gently massage the opposite way, stroking in a downward motion. Keep using alternative hands and very gently increase and decrease the pressure, using variations of speed while keeping a rhythm flowing.

The head of the lingam is a channel for sexual energy while making love and by applying pressure to it, the energy can be awakened and released. Massage the whole of the head with one oiled hand cupped around it and from the wrist use circular stroking movements. Wrap the other hand around the base of the lingam adding a small amount of pressure, however, if the receiver is nearing ejaculation, move this hand back to the perineum to place pressure there whilst slowing down the stroking motions at the head.

Allow a few drops of oil to drip from the head of the lingam down to the testicles and then complete a full stroking motion from the head down to the testicles and then upwards in the opposite direction. Then stroke from the testicles in downward strokes back down towards the anus.

Repeat all of the above motions building and releasing pressure, allowing energy to disperse and to encourage a complete relaxation of the overall genital area.

If at any time the receiver comes close to climax, just slowing down and placing pressure in the perineum area will release the desire to climax so the massage can continue. Another method that can slow down ejaculation is to gently squeeze the head of the lingam while the receiver focuses slowly on taking deep breaths.

A lingam massage is as much a spiritual and healing practice for the giver as it is for the receiver. It is essential that the attitude and mindset is of the correct intention so that the focus is purely on the sexually awakening aspects of it that influence the energy flow, rather than the concern being for sexual gratification or eroticism. Even though the massage will likely feel erotic and sexual, this is not the purpose of the massage.

The lingam massage will bring on a full sense of relaxation and liberation to the whole body and mind, surrendering to the mindful pleasure that is found in two people uniting to perform a ritual of giving and receiving.

Part of the pleasure for the male is found in the passive role that is played so that he is fully conscious and fully aware of each sensation that is taking place and is free to submerge fully into relaxation so that the body is highly sensitised and awakened to each movement that is taking place.

There is no shame at all to be found in this massage and it is very common for a male practitioner to massage another male or a female to massage a male with no sexual connection or energy being passed from one to the other. The massage focuses on the spiritual and healing aspects, however, it is also perfectly normal and natural for feelings of eroticism to take over the whole body, resulting in ejaculation. The body will likely shiver and pulsate as Kundalini energy is released with the receiver being elevated to a higher spiritual plane.

The receiver should remain resting in silence or for several minutes after the massage has taken place so that they can fully absorb every sensation their body is feeling and so that the mind and spirit also are awakened to every aspect of energy clearing, rejuvenation, healing and cleansing that has taken place.

The mind of both the giver and receiver at this stage will likely be at a very conscious and highly awakened level. The mind will be in a meditative state, which will allow the opportunity to feel completely in the present moment. Unprecedented emotions and sensations will be flushing through the minds and bodies, as the giver and receiver are both transcended into a heightened physically and mentally aware primal state.

Soft music should continue to play, or if your partner prefers, the room can be still in a peaceful silence.

The after effects of this deeply sensual and healing experience will be felt in deep and intense waves of sexual energy that will circulate the whole mind, body and soul, lasting for hours and very likely many days after the massage.

Is Pelvic muscle awaking necessary before Lingam massage?

The importance of Pelvic floor massage in men
Many Tantric practitioners start lingam massage without awaking of the pelvic floor muscles to help men with premature ejaculation. To have more effective result it is recommended to awake the pelvic floor muscle by massaging prior starting the lingam massage. While it might result in activation of Shame in the body sprit but some research show that awaking of floor muscle prior lingam massage provide a better outcome.
The other helpful thing is to invite men to have some exercise to awake the floor muscle; following is one that exercises which I found in  
Though the joints within the pelvic girdle are designed more for stability than for movement, they do allow for subtle motion (large movements come from the hip joints and lumbar vertebrae). An exception to this is the coccyx or tail bone which normally has about 30 degrees of movement at its joint with the sacrum. Significantly, several of the pelvic floor muscles as well as some fibers of  the Gluteus Maximus attach to the coccyx. Positions such as squatting or child’s pose in yoga can help to open up the pelvic floor. Lowering your perineum / pelvic floor gently onto a rolled up towel or mat, small soft ball, or other appropriate object and letting the pressure slowly stretch the muscles can be helpful. Care must be taken, especially for those in pain, not to overdo and thus aggravate your symptoms. Using full breaths to slowly, gently, and rhythmically ‘bulge’ the pelvic floor muscles downward and outward on the inhale can also help open this area up. You must be sure to let the breath do the stretching and resist any urge to assist by straining.

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